Monday, October 27, 2014

Who Is She?

For the past three nights in a row, I have dreamed that I have a daughter. The first dream was her birth. I had her in the health room where I worked in my dream. I recall other women also giving birth on this same day. Some women were in a hospital wing of this place.  Others, like me, had to just go back to work. I remember feeling lousy but being told that because of my rank (?), I was not eligible to rest.

I recall packing to come home.  Rob was my husband.  We had no other children. We were in a hurry because we had dinner plans with another couple.  We were halfway home when we realized that we forgot our daughter.  We turned around.  We arrived at my place of employment, and I recall having to tell my supervisor that we forgot our child.  She laughed at me.  I then had to sign a waiver stating that I did, in fact, forget to bring my child home and that I would have to now wait until she could be brought to me. When we got her, we brought her home to our home, which looked like a metallic warehouse. I recall bathing this child and noting how soft her skin was.  How red her curls were.

Then, I woke up.

It was so real.

The second night's dream wasn't as memorable.  I do recall a girl.

The third night I dreamed that this child, a daughter, was entering middle school. Long, red curls. Freckles.  A very happy child. Lots of friends.  Rob and I were trying to find her classroom for some reason.  It was extremely loud and crowded with kids and parents.  As I walked to a room where I saw my child enter, I was greeted by an old friend of mine.  We'll call him Scott. He hugged me and we caught up on things.  He was to be my daughter's homeroom teacher.  This scene seemed to last for hours.

Again, it was so vivid.

I have no idea what has sparked these dreams.  It leaves me a bit unsettled.  I can no longer have children, so that's out of the question... or is it?  Maybe someday we'll adopt?  Who knows.
All I do know is that I have been trying to see this child in my conscious mind, now.  Her sparkling eyes. Bright and happy.  Who is she?  Does she exist?  Silly, yes.  Still...

"A little girl in a dream represents prosperity, wealth after poverty, and ease after a passing adversity. Seeing a baby girl of milk suckling age is even better in a dream. It means a new and a praiseworthy development in one’s life, or it could mean receiving benefits one is hoping for, or living a new world. A little girl in a dream also represents something exclusive for the one who saw her in his dream. Carrying a little girl in a dream means release of a prisoner, or if one is suffering from difficulties, or if he is at fault in an argument, or if he is indebted or poor, it means that all of his worries will be dispelled by the glad tidings of this little girl. If none of these conditions apply, then it means distress or misfortune. A little girl in a dream also means a new world, while a young girl in a dream implies getting a new job. If a woman sees a little girl in a dream, it means that she cannot conceive children... "

Hmm... 

Until next time, 
Sweet dreams!


Thursday, October 16, 2014

With Six You Get Milk Bones

If you told me six weeks ago that I would soon have a puppy in my home, I'd think you were crazy. I mean, I can't have a puppy.  Dogs are not allowed in the apartment complex that we live in.

But, here we are; just shy of one month as puppy parents/brothers.

It all started in my GP's office. I've been dealing with anxiety and depression going through all of the medical crap that I've been dealing with for the past year. It's not horrible but it's enough to put me on medication.  Medication that I honestly hate taking. At my last appointment, my doctor felt it necessary to up my dosage.  I groaned.

"Couldn't you just write me prescription for a dog, instead?" I joked. He looked at me, confused. Then:

"Your apartment doesn't allow dogs?"  I nodded.  With that, he took out his prescription pad, and wrote out an actual prescription for an emotional support dog. I sat there, stunned. He continued;
"Dogs are wonderful for anxiety disorders.  They're also good for keeping blood pressure down."  He handed me the prescription and wished me good luck in finding a dog.

And suddenly, life changed; for all of us.

We discussed this idea with our kids and they agreed that it would be great for not only me, but for the entire family, as well.  So, we submitted the paperwork.  The very next weekend, Rob and I went to the local animal shelter. We had not been given the okay by our apartment complex yet.  Not a smart thing to do: going to the shelter when you might not be granted the okay (would not have mattered, I later learned that I cannot be refused if my doctor deems it medically necessary). So we went in and in saw so many dogs. There were two police officers holding the smallest, jet-black puppy.  He was so soft.  I told Rob, "Aw, they're getting the best dog in here."  One of the officers - both really nice women - put him back into his cage with his sister.
Bubba is on the right
My hopes shot up.  She looked at me and I said something like, "Oh, you're not taking him?"  She pulled him back out and put him into my arms.  "Oh, she's just looking... you're taking him."

Love at first sight.

Those two officers kept egging us on and telling us that the deal was made. Well, it wasn't.  It broke my heart because they kept saying, "If you don't take him now, he'll be gone by tonight."  Heart heavy, we left. If I was in need of an emotional support pup, I was now.  I was depressed all week. Days later, I resigned myself to the fact that "Bubba" was now adopted.  Yes, we would still get a dog, but I wanted him.

Robin saying "good-bye" to "Bubba." 
I went to the website of the shelter we went to just to see what was now available.  I was shocked to see that Bubba was still available!  We had just received our approval and Rob called to see if we could somehow put a deposit down to save him.  My nerves were shot.  They told us that that wasn't necessary, that they remembered us and they'd hold him for us.  The next day, we would bring him home!

I admit that life with puppy is harder than I remember.  Chewing, potty-training, potty accidents, crate training... it's exhausting.  But we wouldn't change a thing.  Already, Duke can "Shake hands" "Sit" and we're working on "Lie Down."  He will go into his crate when we tell him to "Go to your house" or "Go home."  The land-sharkiness is ebbing,  He's teething.  Lots of frozen binkies.

So here we are, a family of six. Birdie loves Duke.  Duke isn't sure what to think of Birdie. Maybe a nice appetizer?  I don't want to find out.

Month one with Duke: down.  We are tired, and our apartment is a wreck, but we're all in love with this little blue/black Lab/Bichon mix.  I really hope the Lab gave birth.  Just thinking about that poor little Bichon... Ugh.  But, I'm thankful to it.  Because now we have DUKE!
Just over three months old.